Post-conflict guide
Dissecting the Fight
A guided conversation for after the argument is over — to understand what happened, take honest responsibility, and decide together what to do differently next time.
What's insidePDF · 12 pages
Free couples resources
Practical tools for the two of you
Guides grounded in Gottman's research, attachment theory and sexology — for the fight you keep having, the closeness that faded, and the conversations you have been putting off. Give your email once and every download here opens.
After the fight
Conflict exercise
The Iceberg Map
The argument you are having is almost never fully about what it looks like on the surface. A guided exercise for mapping what is really underneath it.
What's insidePDF · 9 pages
Conflict exercise
The Pattern Finder
Most couples do not have fifty different arguments. Look across several conflicts to find the recurring structure underneath — the one that can finally be addressed once it is named.
What's insidePDF · 10 pages
Conflict exercise
The 48-Hour Replay
A structured exercise for processing a conflict once the heat has passed and you can both look at what happened honestly, without defence.
What's insidePDF · 9 pages
Gottman-based couples tool
Repair Attempt Cards
What to say when the conversation is breaking down. Specific phrases, real guidance, and the science behind why they work — for use mid-conflict and after.
What's insidePDF · 64 cards
Somatic reconnection
Grounding Rituals After Conflict
For the space after the argument ends — when you are not yet ready to resolve, but you do not want to stay disconnected. Seven rituals to bring you back to each other.
What's insidePDF · 10 pages
Co-regulation & breathwork
Collaborative Nervous System Regulation
When your body is flooded, no conversation will go well. Activities that bring you back to each other by regulating together first, rather than talking it through.
What's insidePDF · 10 pages
Attachment patterns
Attachment & secure connection
Anxious + Avoidant: How to Meet in the Middle
Not a guide to managing your patterns more comfortably — a guide to growing out of them together. It will require both of you to do things that feel wrong, and do them anyway.
What's insidePDF · 10 pages
For the secure-leaning partner
Loving an Anxious Partner
How to help your anxiously attached partner move toward security — without over-reassuring, without losing yourself, and without accidentally making the anxiety worse.
What's insidePDF · 10 pages
For the secure-leaning partner
Loving an Avoidant Partner
How to build safety without chasing — without abandoning your own needs, and without confirming their fear that closeness costs them themselves.
What's insidePDF · 11 pages
For the secure-leaning partner
Loving a Partner with Disorganised Attachment
How to hold steady without losing yourself — without over-accommodating the unpredictability, and without reacting punitively to it.
What's insidePDF · 12 pages
Intimacy & sex
Sexual wellbeing
Desire Discrepancy: When You Don't Want It at the Same Time
The most common sexual issue in long-term relationships, and one of the most misunderstood. What is actually happening, why it is not what you think, and what to do about it.
What's insidePDF · 23 pages
For couples in sexless relationships
"We Stopped Having Sex"
You are not broken, you are not alone, and this is not something you simply have to accept. How couples get here — and what it actually takes to find a way back.
What's insidePDF · 24 pages
For long-term partners
Keeping the Spark
Not a listicle of gimmicks. The actual research on what keeps desire and intimacy alive in long-term relationships, and the specific practices that work.
What's insidePDF · 18 pages
7-day challenge
Rebuild Physical Connection, One Day at a Time
Seven days, one small intentional practice each day. No pressure — just a direction to move in together, with each step grounded in research and building on the last.
What's inside7-day challenge · 11 pages
Anorgasmia & reduced sensation
"Why Don't I Feel Anything During Sex?"
One of the most common sexual experiences people never talk about. What reduced sensation and difficulty reaching orgasm actually is, why it happens, and what genuinely helps.
What's insidePDF · 23 pages
Research-based & non-prescriptive
Pornography and Your Relationship
Not the social media version and not the moral version — the evidence-based account of how pornography affects relationships, and what couples who navigate it well do differently.
What's insidePDF · 16 pages
Money, family & values
Money, values & meaning
Financial Intimacy
A guided conversation about money — not the numbers, but what money means to each of you, where those meanings came from, and how to build a shared financial life.
What's insidePDF · 14 pages
Gottman research & relational readiness
Before Baby: The Conversations Couples Need to Have
Whether you are thinking about children, trying, or already expecting — the relational conversations that determine whether a partnership deepens through the transition to parenthood.
What's insidePDF · 16 pages
Faith & values
Different Religions, One Relationship: Can It Work?
The honest, research-based answer — what the evidence says about interfaith couples, what actually determines whether it works, and the conversations that make the difference.
What's insidePDF · 22 pages
Opposite emotional styles
Different by Design
He problem-solves. She processes. Not a flaw to fix but a pattern to understand — how to work with your differences rather than against them.
What's insidePDF · 15 pages
Harder seasons
Infidelity recovery
Surviving Infidelity
For couples who have chosen to stay, and who want to understand what recovery actually looks like, what the research says is possible, and what the path requires of both of them.
What's insidePDF · 13 pages
For the well partner
Loving Someone with Depression
This one is entirely for you — your exhaustion, your guilt, your grief. What the research says helps, what does not, and how to stay whole while holding someone you love.
What's insidePDF · 21 pages
Research-based & honest
How to Get Your Partner to Go to Couples Counselling
You know you need help; your partner is not sure. Why partners resist, what the research says about changing that, and the specific language that actually works.
What's insidePDF · 18 pages
Some things are easier with someone alongside you
Worksheets can start a conversation. If the same argument keeps coming back, or the distance between you isn't closing, couples counselling gives it somewhere to go.